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School Of Rock: A Lesson On Rejection

Ok it’s 1:24 a.m. CST on Wednesday, October 9, 2013, and if you know me, you know I am normally well into my uninterrupted REM sleep by now. So this was inspired by an unwise decision to have coffee with my dessert at my hotel at 7:24 p.m., a conversation of ministry I had with one of my spiritual daughters, and a commitment to embody my brand (PKJONDEMAND) during a training workshop on Tuesday afternoon. All things work together, right?


Since my text to her was the last thing I remembered before closing my eyes for a 2 hour interlude, it’s the first thing that comes to mind when my eyes pop open. After an hour and a half of tossing and hoping to go back to sleep, God begins to expound on the insight he had me to share with her. So, rather than turn on the tv or scroll down my social media timelines judging people in my heart for some of the stuff they post (don’t judge me, you do it too 😁), I decided to blog on the site that I paid money to own a URL with my brand on it (PKJONDEMAND) but hadn’t used since May. So here goes…


After being alive for forty years, being in ministry for almost 20 years, being an adult for three years (real talk) and being a Pastor for 11 years, I’ve run into this scenario more times than I would like to admit. The child, spouse, friend, employee, sibling or ministry partner who is generally the rejected, ostracized and outcast on the team is usually the one that the leader of that unit will need the most during a state of demise. Now, here is where most biblically astute individuals would plug in the metaphor of Joseph to make this lesson come alive. However, the mocha ghost and the Holy Ghost, have given me the new perspective that Joseph was just a cheap prototype of the ultimate Instructor of Rejection 101: Jesus Christ.

The scriptures clearly illustrate Christ as a baby who was thrown out with the proverbial bath water. Isaiah 53:3 calls Him despised and rejected and several places in the scripture, beginning with Psalms 118:22, He is spoken of as the stone that the builders rejected. The interesting thing about the “rejected stone” thingy is that even though it was rejected it became the cornerstone of the foundation.

Okay, I betcha you are just as confused as I was about this cornerstone concept, because in my mind I heard crickets and saw you with the “deer in the headlights” expression as you just read that last sentence.


So, since I finally learned what this concept was in my adult years (remember I’ve only been grown for three years now), I will try to explain it to you as best I can.

When a builder begins to build a structure the must have a foundation to build on. Now, an experienced builder knows that to make sure that everything is lined up right from the foundation to the highest point of the building, they cannot focus on the finished structure; they can’t even start with the full foundation, they have to start by focusing all of their attention on one corner of the foundation. Every other part of that structure must be aligned with that one corner, otherwise (in my New England accent), you’s gotta problem bowse. Now in the throwback days, in order to make sure the first corner of the foundation was perfect, and the rest of the building thereafter was perfect, the builders would use a precisely cut cornerstone to line up every other stone of that foundation. That one stone kept the whole structure solid and capable of withstanding all kinds of pressure: one stone I tell ya!

Jesus Christ is the one Stone that is the foundation of all life and relationship. The bible says that He as the architect came to those who were called to build life and relationship upon Him, but they didn’t receive Him (John 1:10-11). But when we go to Acts 4:11 we see Peter (The Little Rock), who once denied Jesus himself, quoting Psalms 118:22 and declaring that though Jesus was rejected by those who were to build the structure of life and relationship, He has now become the Cornerstone (Chief Rocka) of the foundation. This indicates that all attempts to build apart from Him will fail and the builders will have to reach back to get Him and build all over again with Him as the MAIN STONE IN THE CORNER.

Sly tried to build a Family with another Stone, that’s why he had to keep being his self AGAIN.


Roc Nation tried to build an entertainment empire, but to keep it going Jay-Z has to keep coming out of retirement.


Dwayne Johnson was once the archetype of modern day professional wrestling, and though some women still find him hot, that Rock ain’t cooking too much here lately.


But Christ (if you hadn’t figured it out by now, I’m preaching) started a family that is perfected once and for all (Hebrews 10:14). Christ established a corporate expression and retired once and doesn’t need to keep making a comeback to keep his company on top (Hebrews 10:12-13). Christ was the archetype of modern day warfare who was not just a flash in the pan, but he keeps cooking up something fresh all the time (I Corinthians 2:7-10).

So, if you were the outcast, the rejected one, the ridiculed and ostracized one who is now the one that your supervisor needs in order to keep them out of trouble, that your broke ex needs to borrow money from to keep their lights on, that your sick parent needs to care for them in their latter years, that your crazy siblings need to help them in their time of need, that your ratchet/backstabbing friends need to be their support once everyone else has left the scene, or your messed up ministry colleagues need to get a prayer through on their behalf, you are in great company. I Peter 2:5 (Voice Translation) says,

“5 Like living stones, let yourselves be assembled into a spiritual house, a holy order of priests who offer up spiritual sacrifices that will be acceptable to God through Jesus, the Liberating King. 6 For it says in the words of the prophet Isaiah,
See here—I am laying in Zion a stone,
a cornerstone, chosen and precious;
Whoever depends upon Him will never be disgraced.”

But in order to be an effective rock, you have to get the pebble off of your shoulder that you picked up because of the rejection. If you are going to be like the Chief Rocker, you will have to learn how to Rock Out like He did. How did Christ Rock Out? He said,

“Hey Pops, you know what? They rejected me; true. But after observing the way they behave, I’ve come to the occlusion that they are just too ignorant to understand what they’re doing. So, I’m gonna put my Big Boy Draws on and take this one for the team. It’s cool, Pops. Let’s forgive them” (Luke 22:34 PKJ Version)

If you can do this, oh the great reward that awaits you is literally mind-blowing. As Paul the Apostle said in Philippians 2:5-11 (Message Translation)

Think of yourselves the way Christ Jesus thought of himself. He had equal status with God but didn’t think so much of himself that he had to cling to the advantages of that status no matter what. Not at all. When the time came, he set aside the privileges of deity and took on the status of a slave, became human ! Having become human, he stayed human. It was an incredibly humbling process. He didn’t claim special privileges. Instead, he lived a selfless, obedient life and then died a selfless, obedient death—and the worst kind of death at that—a crucifixion. Because of that obedience, God lifted him high and honored him far beyond anyone or anything, ever, so that all created beings in heaven and on earth—even those long ago dead and buried—will bow in worship before this Jesus Christ, and call out in praise that he is the Master of all, to the glorious honor of God the Father.

As they say on HGTV & DIY “I Want That” and I believe you do too. So, let’s acknowledge the rejection, embrace the pain and privilege of it, then process the forgiveness that’s necessary so that we can shine bright like the real Hope Diamond, THE ICY ROCK, The Lord Christ Jesus!


Well, the coffee is wearing off. So, This is Helen Jones’ 2nd Son saying, “LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO PLAY GAMES, SO KEEP IT REAL!” Two Fingers To The North ✌️We’re Outta Here!

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