Encouragement, Faith, Life Coaching, Relationships, Uncategorized

Three Questions That Overcome Identity Crisis

We often have so many things intersecting in our lives. We may be raising children, going to school, trying to maintain relationships, while at the same time probably wondering what our next career move is. Maybe we are even dealing with an ailing parent or the death of someone valuable to us. All of these things can be more than daunting and could lead to an identity crisis.

With these various transitions, we can have all of these labels floating around in our head trying to define us, not to mention any regrets we may have about our recent and past life. However, what if none of these labels really matter at the end of the day. What if those labels are merely attributes that flow out of who we really are. Some we didn’t ask for, some we wish never existed, but all of these attributes are present. What if rather than these things defining us, what if we were to define them.

Intelligent is not who we are, it is an attribute, parent is not who you are, it’s a role. Daughter is not who you are it’s a privilege. Introvert is not who we are it’s a personality trait. How we interact with those attributes, roles, privileges and traits determine whether our life will be a life of peace or a life of frustration.

Faith in Christ gives us the power to control how these things impact the whole of our lives. In Christ, we can now set the boundaries and parameters of what it means to be a woman, a man, a father, a mother, a son, a daughter, a friend, an entrepreneur, an employee, a sibling and be content with those boundaries regardless to how others FEEL about it. What matters is that we are okay with us, and that we know our identity in Christ.

This takes extensive self-evaluation. Not from the perspective of the world around us, but from the perspective of our heavenly Father through Christ Jesus. But if we are so busy giving ourselves away in order to be accepted by others, we don’t have anything left to evaluate, neither can we appreciate the work God has done in our lives through Christ. If this is how we function, when it’s all said and done, we end up becoming an empty and depleted mess.

The good news is that we serve a God who has proven to be skilled at taking depleted and empty messes and turning them into fruitful paradises. The earth was void and without form and God said, “Let there be light.” God can give us light in the midst of our dark situations to show us who we are and teach us just like He taught Adam, to control our environment by labeling and setting boundaries on the things around us instead of allowing them to label us.

That process starts with two questions

1. God who am I to you?

2. God why am I here in this earth?

These two questions are what turn the light on and helps us to begin our journey to a life of total peace. Not that it will be void of problems but a life that is victorious regardless to the problems we encounter.

There is a third question in this discovery process. However, this question is not from you to God. It is, instead, from God to you. And that question is,

3. What are you going to do with do with Jesus? Selah

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